tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11933153.post115947116898991125..comments2023-09-07T07:53:45.095-05:00Comments on Daydreams and Musings: Thursday Thirteen - Poor Parenting EditionSlackerMomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11584147672732422546noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11933153.post-83618359326523689112006-11-11T18:55:00.000-06:002006-11-11T18:55:00.000-06:00*would be judgemental*would be judgementalAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11933153.post-89325903398350398272006-11-11T18:53:00.000-06:002006-11-11T18:53:00.000-06:00It is true that they sedate kids in order to put c...It is true that they sedate kids in order to put caps and fix cavities. I do understand that you said this would judgemental be, but I have to tell you I am a mother of four. They are ages 9, 5, 3, and 3. My oldest three don't have any cavivites and have never had a cavitiy. My youngest twin however was told that he has four cavities. I of course cried because I couldn't understand what I was doing wrong when he brushes twice a day and he goes to the dentist every 6 months. I was told that he has sensitive teeth so the things that other children might be able to eat he can't. So not ever parent who has a child with caps or cavities is just giving their child sugar and soda. My children eat sugar free ice cream and candy and I don't like for them to drink soda at all. Just to let you know that their are other reasons out there for children to have dental problems other than the fact that their parents are allowing them to splurge on sugar.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11933153.post-10598195489091543042006-10-18T22:12:00.000-05:002006-10-18T22:12:00.000-05:00Anonymous - I warned people at the beginning of th...Anonymous - I warned people at the beginning of the post that it's very judgmental. I was in that kind of mood that day. I also understand that there are circumstances beyond our control (i.e. bad teeth running in the family or an accident causing the need for dental work) that might lead to a child needing anesthesia. But I wasn't referring to parents in that situation. I was referring to parents that are negligent with their childrens' dental health.<br /><br />Same thing with the food - you're right that maybe the kids who bring Oreos to school everyday are eating healthy food all the other times. But seriously, I doubt it. <br /><br />In my humble opinion, it isn't a matter of eating "something" (unhealthy) rather than eating nothing. If they're hungry and all you've given them is healthy food, they'll eat it. If they know it bugs you when they don't eat and that you'll give into them and let them eat junk rather than letting them go hungry - they've played you. They'll get what they want because they know what buttons to push. <br /><br />It won't kill kids to go without a snack if they refuse to eat something healthy. The next time, they'll know that they either go hungry or they eat the snack you give them. It's a pretty simple equation most of the time.<br /><br />Also, you're right - when kids are out of their comfort zone, they might forget their manners. But do you remind them? Do you correct their behavior and insist that they apologize if they've been rude to someone? I'm not saying my kids never make mistakes. I'm saying that when they do, we correct them and help them learn. That's what parenting is all about.SlackerMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11584147672732422546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11933153.post-73527549173958028542006-10-18T17:07:00.000-05:002006-10-18T17:07:00.000-05:00wow, I followed the links from paper napkin and I ...wow, I followed the links from paper napkin and I find this post very judgemental. I send my children to school with food they like-whether it's grapes or oreos. It comes down to them eating something, rather than nothing. My niece and nephew had tons of cavities at early ages because porous teeth ran in their family, not because they had bottles in the cribs, and frankly, you can teach your children manners until the cows come home, but take them out of a comfortable situation and sometimes they might forget a few things. Parenting isn't about being perfect nor is it about judging other parents for how they raise their own children. Maybe you should spend less time evaluating everyone else's jobs and stick to just doing the best job that you can. That's all we really can do. Besides, never assume that just because a child brings the oreos every single day for snack time that that's the only type of thing that child eats. Criticism is a slippery slope and someday you might find you didn't know as much as you thought you did.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11933153.post-1159795628409346832006-10-02T08:27:00.000-05:002006-10-02T08:27:00.000-05:00Jessica, although Im sure in many cases having a l...Jessica, although Im sure in many cases having a lot of cavaties is due to neglecting a child's health I also wanted to let you know (since Im sure you didnt) that children who receive a lot of medication also get a lot of cavaties.<BR/>Although many parents of children with disabilities try very hard (rinsing their child's mouth out right away, etc.) the sad fact is that most parents are not aware that medication can harm their child's teeth - before they even come out!<BR/>Most dentists wont even see children until they are 2 or 3 by which time children who receive medication daily already have a few cavaties.<BR/>Im not saying that this was the case in Chicago or even in a lot of cases but it's something few people seem to know. There is one reason for children to have cavaties.That Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13025131337233751880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11933153.post-1159630200835713892006-09-30T10:30:00.000-05:002006-09-30T10:30:00.000-05:00Anonymous - I wasn't saying that anesthesia was ne...Anonymous - I wasn't saying that anesthesia was never necessary for children or for dental procedures. In your situation, your daughter had an accident that caused damage - it happens, and you do what you have to do knowing the risks. But in this situation, the girl had cavities - so many that she had to have some of her teeth capped. THAT is totally preventable. That happened because someone - her parents or other caregivers - were not taking her dental health seriously.<BR/><BR/>Sandra - I don't blame the mother for the problems her daughter had with anesthesia. That was a horrible thing that happened either because of bad luck or bad monitoring. But who's to blame if a child's baby teeth are so rotted that they need to have cavities filled in SIX TEETH (or more)? It's not the dentist's fault and it isn't the baby's fault.<BR/><BR/>People are so quick to blame circumstances beyond their control when something bad happens. But the reality is that sometimes, there are things that are within our control. We just need to be strong enough to make the right choices when it counts.SlackerMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11584147672732422546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11933153.post-1159622286426685442006-09-30T08:18:00.000-05:002006-09-30T08:18:00.000-05:00Argh, I HATE the "boys will be boys" or "kids will...Argh, I HATE the "boys will be boys" or "kids will be kids" excuse for bad behavior. That infuriates me, and believe me, my kids test the limits all the time. (You probably have pickedup on that by now from my posts...hahaha!!)<BR/><BR/>And the whole eating thing. Man. My sister-in-law lets her kids have candy, dessert, soda, etc. all the time. Those things just are not staples around here, and I love the fact that my kids still consider candy a "treat" and not something that is part of their daily repetoire. And soda isn't even an option for them - they've never had it, they don't ask for it. They drink milk, juice or water. We suck as parents in so many other ways, but we really try hard with the nutrition, esp. since our kids are picky and we have concerns over what calories they DO take in.Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02667140531327670081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11933153.post-1159621583408436062006-09-30T08:06:00.000-05:002006-09-30T08:06:00.000-05:00That is so sad about the child dying at the dentis...That is so sad about the child dying at the dentist's office. Many years ago, I read an article about incidents such as that one, and it convinced me to never allow my child to be sedated outside of a hospital. Those small offices and storefront places are simply not equipped to deal with an emergency, such as respiratory arrest or severe allergic reactions that sometimes (rarely!) occur with anesthesia. What a sad story. I definitely blame the dentist, though, not the mother!Choco Piehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11249035692859813704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11933153.post-1159583018310844922006-09-29T21:23:00.000-05:002006-09-29T21:23:00.000-05:00That was quite an informative 13! Good job momma!That was quite an informative 13! Good job momma!Dayngrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18188692449680744194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11933153.post-1159580098961335262006-09-29T20:34:00.000-05:002006-09-29T20:34:00.000-05:00Be careful about judgement on the dentist thing......Be careful about judgement on the dentist thing.....my daughter had to have her two front teeth pulled at four years old because, being the active child she is, she had traumatized them twice with the result being abcesses that might have spread to her jaw if they were not pulled out. And you bet she had anesthesia for that procedure! I think she also had light anesthesia for sealing her molars, which was done to prevent future cavities. Sometimes taking care of dental health involves some pain and it isn't always preventable.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11933153.post-1159572890776107882006-09-29T18:34:00.000-05:002006-09-29T18:34:00.000-05:00really liked your 13. i know i struggle w/ the be...really liked your 13. i know i struggle w/ the best ways to provide for my child, that balance health as well as possible...and there are so many schools of thought, it's hard to know what is right so you trust yourself, and sometimes the women in the blog world.Girlplustwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07056576921114387218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11933153.post-1159481177404519312006-09-28T17:06:00.000-05:002006-09-28T17:06:00.000-05:00Lucky you - great kids and husband.I'm looking for...Lucky you - great kids and husband.<BR/>I'm looking forward to visiting you again!<BR/>Waving at you from New York,<BR/>FrancesFrances Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11029519305784921207noreply@blogger.com